10 November 2009

Smiling At Memories

She was a fine addition to our family.
Sara Jean's brother had married her mother a short time before, inheriting this beautiful 14 year old cheerleader. It's Thanksgiving Day, and we are realizing more and more what a wonderful choice he's made. Both fit into our family seamlessly.

Dinner is still an hour or so away and she's taking advantage of our great weather outside, practicing her cheerleading moves. My Dad grabs his camera and begins to record her practice.
Now we have transferred that recording to DVD. Anytime we want, we can go back and see her moving this way and that, pausing, biting her lip a little in thought, then continuing with her routine.

That was 22 years ago.
Our cheerleader went on to become a grade school teacher. She married a fine young man and had two children, both boys. A little over a year ago she had an odd pain and sought medical care...
Ovarian cancer.
Of course we were crushed. But so long as she is alive we can hope for a miracle...
Some new medical breakthrough...
Spontaneous remission.
But you know from the outset it'll be a tough journey. Hard for her. Hard for her family. Hard on her little boys who are too young to understand what's going on with Mommy. And hard for those of us in the extended family to watch from a distance.

And in the end, as is so often the case, you just pray for an end to her suffering.
Her suffering ended Sunday morning as the sun rose on an absolutely beautiful day. That near-Springlike weather has continued, so as we set out on our journey to celebrate her life with family, we rejoice that our long drive won't be made more difficult with ugly late-Fall weather.
Tears will come, of course. But smiles and laughter too. And in the back of my mind I'll always have the memory of that pretty 14 year old, pensively biting her lip, trying to remember that next move.

We love you Jenn. We are glad you are at peace.


Capt. Schmoe said...

Condolences to you and your family Greybeard.

Rita said...

I had a dear friend who's sister fought stage IV ovarian cancer for 5 years, so I have a little understanding of the struggle.

I'm relieved your Jenn is finally at peace and will keep her and your family in my prayers.

It's just so sad.

cj said...

What a lovel tribute, GB. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayer.

Peace and strength, my friend.


jinksto said...

Sorry for your loss sir. Sincerely so.

Beautiful words of remembrance. It's the little things that we often remember, the passing moments that blink by and are remembered for a lifetime.

The Old Man said...

God Bless and keep her soul. May He reach out to you and Sara Jean and hold you in his hand.

cary said...

Condolences, and prayers for all the family.

Sorry to hear of your loss, Greybeard.

OlePrairiedog said...

As always, E and I wish great memories of Jenn for you and your extended family. Always and forever.

Lisa said...

I am truly sorry for your loss.